Become a Master-Gardener-Weed out Distorted Thinking in Your Child's Mind

I like you just have heard some of newest revelations regarding Josh Duggar, and am feeling so sorry for his wife and family, to have to learn of his double life. It always amazes me how we say that when two consenting adults do things--it becomes a victim-less crime, this is not true. Why, because those two consenting adults do not live in isolation. They have family members, in this case there is a wife, and four small children, who regrettably will share in some of the shame and guilt of one of the "consenting adults."

I often think of the families along with the victim of sexual molestation and child abuse. What happens to a child, happens to the family. Everyone is affected in some way, on some level. We as a community must remember the family of a molested child, an abused child.

Molestation can be all consuming. It reminds me of Pac-man...if you can remember that game where the big yellow Pac-man ate up everything in its path. We have to be on-guard to NOT allow the molestation to eat up <em>our</em> children's dreams, future, self-esteem, and the ability to see a good destiny for themselves.

We can do this by always reminding our children they are NOT to blame, they did nothing wrong, they have many wonderful qualities, there is nothing wrong with them, there is no answer to why they were singled out for abuse, the problem, the fault lies with only one person-the Perpetrator.

You will need to say this to your child once, twice, a thousand times, because they <strong>WILL</strong> forget and negative, distorted thinking once set in their mind can grow like a weed, so ensure that you are a gardener in the mind of your child and uproot, weed out their distorted thinking of themselves.